This article was originally posted at Goodmenproject.com. For the full write up click here. Also check out my book on mentoring call “Mentorship: The Playbook” by clicking here.
1. Compassionate Mentorship: This looks like a genuine acknowledgment of the mentee, where they are in life, and the expression of a desire to help get them from point A to point B.It’s the difference between task-based mentoring (i.e. being assigned a mentor/mentee) and purposeful mentoring (i.e. seeking out a mentor/mentee).
In acknowledging that, you as the mentor have a vested interest in your mentee’s development, you are saying to the mentee that “I’m here, I see you, and I want you to succeed.”
2. Consistency: Some mentors get hooked up with a mentee and say, “Here’s my number. If you ever need anything don’t be afraid to reach out”, leaving the mentee to wonder what exactly they should be reaching out for.
This creates a stalemate and may indicate disinterest to the mentee or give the impression that the mentor is too busy for trivial thoughts or experiences. The burden, however, shouldn’t fall solely on the mentor to establish points of contact. The mentee should feel empowered to look for pockets of availability where there can be regular contact.
For a successful mentorship interaction to occur, establishing consistency in contact (with room built in for flexibility of course) is key. It says I’m committed to this interaction and to aid in your growth. Consistency can look different for different people. It might be once monthly or quarterly, or it might be once weekly or even yearly. That time should be blocked off and dedicated time to making sure the interaction is had.
3. Establish Expectations: This goes hand in hand with establishing consistency in contact. The mentor may be none the wiser of why or even how to help the mentee, inversely the mentee may have no idea what to expect in terms of attention and support of the mentor.
It’s important to be clear what is sought after, and the reasoning behind it.Maybe the mentee wants to be prepared for a higher level of status in an organization or wants to learn a particular skill set. Maybe the mentee wants someone to bounce thoughts off of from time to time for advice or reflection. Maybe the mentor just wants to make a difference in someone’s life because someone did or did not do it for them.
It’s important to be clear of each other’s expectations so that no one is left feeling disappointed or let down.
4. Create a List of Deal Breakers: The flip side to the establishment of expectations is also clearly defining boundaries and deal-breakers. What things won’t you tolerate or are off-limits in the interaction.
Perhaps Sunday is the day you spend with family and so no calls are made/accepted on a Sunday. Perhaps there are only certain hours you’d like to allocate towards your mentoring commitment. Maybe there are certain topics you’d rather not discuss or advise on.
The establishment of boundaries keeps the relationship in a controlled space, while also making sure that no unspoken boundaries are crossed. Being upfront about these boundaries eliminates the distraction of negative feelings or emotions and allows the mentor/mentee to focus on whatever the predetermined goal was.
5. Pay it Forward: Paying it forward is essentially a rinse and repeat process combined with the full circle of the student becoming the teacher. The mentee gets to take the best of their experience being mentored and provide that same framework and structure for another hence, multiplying the impact of the previous mentor’s work.
The mentor also gets to walk away with a feeling of accomplishment through the lens of their mentee’s accomplishment and gets to take the collection of experiences and lessons learned in that mentorship interaction and bring it to any future mentoring interaction moving forward; creating a continuous learning environment for the mentor.
By incorporating these guidelines into your mentoring practice, you will no doubt have a more structured and fruitful mentorship relationship whether you are acting as mentor, mentee, or both.
Mentorship happens around us every day whether we give it the official title or not. It’s important that we follow the golden rule of mentoring and that is always “Find a mentor, be a mentor”.
Originally seen in Authority Magazine interview with Jason Hartman.
I am utterly disappointed in “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” author Robert Kiyosaki. I feel hurt and betrayed by your words in a tweet posted on Friday, June 12 regarding Black Lives Matter protests. And while I know that you will likely retract, justify, or explain away your statement — which apparently has since been deleted — it won’t change the fact that you made it and likely meant every word.
LEGO, the notoriously famous toy production company made a bold statement by pulling advertising and marketing promoting a selection of LEGO products as an act of solidarity with the Black community around racism and inequality. Although their message was misinterpreted as having pulled all cop-related toys, LEGO in a public statement clarifies by stating that:
“There is no place for racism in our society. We stand with the black community against racism and inequality. Our mission is to inspire and develop the builders of tomorrow, and that includes inspiring them to be tolerant, inclusive and kind. There is more to do and as one small step, we are donating US$4 million to organizations in the U.S. dedicated to organizations that support black children and others that educate all children about tolerance and racial equality. We would like to clarify that we have not removed any sets from sale. The misunderstanding is the result of an email that was sent on our behalf to members of our affiliate marketing program. The intent of the email was to ask that they pause promoting and marketing a selection of LEGO products on their sites. We paused all marketing across our own social channels earlier this week in response to the tragic events in the U.S. We regret any misunderstanding and will be clearer about our intentions in the future.”
There are other examples of large companies taking a bold stance against racism through public statements, social media campaigns, and monetary donations, however this action sends a meaningful message that hits several tones including corporate accountability, emotional intelligence, and early childhood education. LEGO is no doubt aware of its audience and the multigenerational presence it’s had in households around the world and has effectively used its platform to take a stance in saying not only that what has happened was wrong, but that there needs to be a change made, and here’s how we plan on making that change via our statement, our marketing campaigns, and our dollars.
The protests occurring now internationally in response to the murder of George Floyd by police officer Derek Chauvin and the 3 other police offers who were present at the time address what appears as two issues simultaneously but is really one issue and its symptom, and that is racism and police brutality. With large companies like LEGO taking a stand against injustice on multiple points, it creates space to begin unpacking hundreds of years of injustice that is a daily terror to black Americans and people of color around the world.
The company’s decision to donate $4 Million to “organizations dedicated to supporting black children and educating all children about racial equality” is equally telling as this demonstrates a responsibility to not only address the issue of racism with adults and other large organizations, but by breaking the cycle of racism being taught to future generations. The ripple effect of which will hopefully echo across multiple generations just like the LEGO name has with its product line. The timing of these actions following the looting of The LEGO Store on Fifth Ave. in the Flatiron District of New York City is equally powerful as the organization has sustained losses and damage resulting from the outrage around police brutality and the murder of George Floyd. By swiftly reacting with emotional intelligence and a willingness to take action, LEGO’s statement is so much more than just another box checked off.
Rahkim is a TEDx speaker, 2x author, and non-profit cofounder. He is active on Instagram/Twitter @RahkimSabree. Check out his book “Financially Irresponsible” available on Amazon.
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April 17, 2020
“Personal Finance expert gives tips on the best ways to spend stimulus check”
New Britain, CT (RahkimSabree.com) -- Author, Tedx speaker, Non-profit cofounder, and personal finance expert Rahkim Sabree has built a platform of advocacy for financial education especially in the black and brown communities. He declares in his TED talk that he grew up to the mantra “Each one teach one, each one reach one. If you know, teach. If you don’t know, learn” and that’s exactly what he’s done creating and sharing content across the popular social media sites like Instagram and Twitter, writing a book on financial empowerment, co-founding a non profit rooted in ending homelessness through education, delivering a TED talk, and most recently contributing to publications like TheGrio on personal finance matters.
“I believe that the best financial investment is an investment in financial education,” writes Rahkim Sabree. “Here are 5 ways to spend your stimulus check regardless of the amount.” Rahkim then lists 5 ways including paying yourself first, investing in your future, paying your bills, investing in education, and investing through traditional mediums such as stocks and real estate. To read the full write up from TheGrio click HERE.
Rahkim is mission driven to inspire people who “look like him” to embrace financial education by “building a team,” he explains. “This is a conversation that should be had at every dinner table, in every classroom, over the course of every holiday.”
About An Extended Hand, Inc.
An Extended Hand, Inc. was founded by Alfonso Holland and Rahkim Sabree in 2018 with a focus on addressing homelessness. Holland and Sabree realized that while most organizations who focus on homelessness focus on rapid housing, there are serious gaps in being able to prevent homelessness through education in the areas of personal finance, job preparedness and entrepreneurship, and health and wellness. They’ve built their organization around education in these specific fields while also hosting events like clothing and supply drives for the homeless. They can be reached at email@example.com and via social media at @anextendedhand.
About Rahkim Sabree
Rahkim Sabree grew up in Mount Vernon, NY. He largely attributes his success to his strong support system and belief in “the impossibility of impossibility”. He is the author of “Mentorship: The Playbook” and “Financially Irresponsible” both available on Amazon. Rahkim describes himself as a “hybrid-entrepreneur” having a nearly 10 year tenure in the Banking and Financial Services world. For more information on Rahkim visit his website at RahkimSabree.com or follow his social media @RahkimSabree on Instagram and Twitter.
"Financial Literacy" is all the rave right now as lawmakers and educators are rushing to the front lines promoting its relevance.
And it is relevant!
In fact according to FINRA 2/3 or 66% of Americans show low levels of financial literacy. However when white teachers who have never experienced poverty teach black, latino, and other minority students who live it everyday, about the importance of saving and budgeting when their stomachs are empty the message won't stick.
I had a coworker ask me once, "how does it feel to be poor?" and I had to go into detail about some of the ways to survive, and what have become nostalgic memories, it really brings into perspective the NEED for cultural sensitivity training included in financial education.
Have you ever had to:
-Eat white rice with butter and sugar for breakfast?
-Mix sugar and water for a beverage?
-Had a syrup sandwich?
-Split 1 dinner among a family of 4?
-Wash your dirty clothes in the sink?
-Boil water on the stove to bathe?
How then can you as an educator teach, encourage, or inspire a child who is ACTIVELY worrying about their next meal? How can you change their mind that success is not just for you but also for them? Can you understand the trauma and anxiety associated with their poverty mindset?
This article demands 2 things:
1) The need for cultural sensitivity and awareness training on the part of educators who don't look like their students.
2) An increase in advocacy and educational leadership from members of/from the communities that these young people come from.
MORE minority educators and examples of financial literacy!
MORE cultural sensitivity!
and that is why I wrote "Financially Irresponsible" outlining not only my experiences with poverty and MY shift in mindset, but also my charge to others to "Pay it forward."
Check out my TEDxTalk on Financial Empowerment being a team sport below!
Recently a business coach and friend pointed out that I had a powerful 30 days of achievements.
I did a press release to announce the arrival of my new book “Financially Irresponsible”
Released the book on the Amazon platform
Delivered a TED talk at TEDx Hartford
Dropped another press release announcing the talk and my call to action
Black Enterprise Magazine picked up my story and not only posted to their website, but their social media handles as well (Facebook is showing almost 600 shares and 1.5k likes).
IHeart Radio called inviting me to appear as a guest on one of their National shows.
Of course my friend knew that those 30 days was the culmination of nearly 10 years of a slow build and disciplined approach to shaping my future. He pointed out that outside of that discipline there were several factors that led me to the position I’m in today. Several factors that I’m going to share with you now.
1.I was comfortable betting on myself. Yes that means financially, that means mentally, physically, even spiritually. I decided that no matter what I was not going to fail and that I would do whatever necessary to learn, grow, and show.
2.I stayed out of my feelings. When disappointment hits for me, it hits HARD. However I knew my mission was too important to let my attitude or disappointment stop me. Sometimes that mean having a plan b and a plan c. Speaking of plans…
3.I had a plan and I stuck to it. One thing I realize separates the successful from the talented and hardworking is consistency. Often times people give up when they don’t see enough traction, enough dollars, enough responses. I believe in what I do and what I produce so much that sure, i’d be disappointed if no-one budged or responded but I wouldn’t stop. I would just have to keep coming up with ways to come at my goal until I won.
4.ABL- Always be learning. I leveraged the insights not only of the coach, but also the market. There were times I wanted to go left and everything told me I needed to go right so I listened. Too often, creatives and business people want to be “Bosses” and do thing THEIR way. I’ve learned that true Bosses make decisions that are best for the final product and the end user. Fortunately, the market was receptive to my ideas and gave me feedback that I implemented immediately.
Again, success was not an overnight thing. Nor does it come and stay. Anyone who’s been watching knows that I’m riding this wave as long as I can while also “Thinking of a master plan” to continue to build and develop.
They say the climb to the top is one thing, but staying there… well that’s something else.
Let me know what you think and as always feel free to share with others.
Wiz Khalifa broke the internet by saying "Being broke is a mindstate".
“Easy thing to say for a millionaire”
“Literally things only rich people say”
“Give me some money then”
The list goes on and on. Apparently Wiz ruffled some feathers when he made that statement but the truth is, he isn’t wrong. The majority of responses to his post are reflecting a scarcity mindset that is all too common in our communities. “The rich get richer and the poor get poorer” they say, but why do you think that is?
I personally weigh in on it because I think it's disgusting how many people are in this mans pockets... (Follow me on Twitter)
I believe one of the things that are foundational to any successful person is belief in themselves.
That includes how they talk to and about themselves. Surely walking around talking about how “broke” you are is having an impact on how you identify and execute on opportunities to change that because you’ve already told yourself that this is what you are.
I remember my very first talk on financial literacy. I discuss the “illusion of poverty” and state that the word poverty comes from the old french word “poverte” meaning a wretched state or condition. That state or condition refers to the state of mind. In my book, Financially Irresponsible, I spend the entire first half discussing mindset and the spiritual relationship we have with money. I discuss the poverty mindset and how we often block our blessings simply by not believing.
Sure, Wiz has attained a level of wealth many people will never see in their lifetime. But shouldn’t that be a clue to the fact that maybe what he says is actually a gem and the secret to success? Between a “broke” person and someone amassing wealth, if I was told the secret to wealth building was in the mind i’d believe the person with wealth…
But that’s just me (shrug).
I’ve been experiencing a lot of exposure as of late. Between my TEDx Talk and the publishing of my book “Financially Irresponsible”, I’ve had multiple people reach out or pick up my story. From local podcasters to IHeart Radio and Black Enterprise Magazine, the word is getting out.
What strikes me most however is when individual people write me to let me know how my work has impacted them, or come to me sincerely looking for advice. I think at the heart of what I do, THIS is the goal. To make a difference and inspire people to create change in themselves.
Recently, a woman wrote me letting me know her situation and asked me for help. She had shared that she had read an article about me and wanted to make a change. The reason this is so impactful is that most people are too fearful or too proud to begin to utter the words help.
I poured as much as I could into my response.
Surely the mini essay I wrote won’t change her situation, but I believe the gesture to be enough to give encouragement and a place to start. I also became inspired.
I want more people to write me and share with me not only their struggles and inquiries, but their successes and wins! I would like to invite anyone reading this to head on over to my website and send me a message via the contact us form, or send me a DM on my various social media handles. One thing i’ve learned is that if you don’t know it, someone else probably doesn’t either!
Thanks for your time.
Photo: Kevork Djansezian (Getty Images)
After reading the positions of MANY on the recent news relating to Jay-Z and his purchasing a majority ownership stake in an NFL team I think we need to have a discussion about capitalism.
…and while I think EVERYONE can use a refresher, when I say we I’m specifically talking about Black people…
Capitalism is an economic system based on the private ownership of the means of production and their operation for profit. Characteristics central to capitalism include private property, capital accumulation, wage labor, voluntary exchange, a price system and competitive markets.
Being a student of money myself I try to look at 3 things financially:
-Where I come from
-Where I am
-Where I want to be
When I think about where I come from I’m not talking just about the household I grew up in. I’m talking about the patterns of money reaching back generations. I think about the history of Black people in America and the disproportionate wealth in this country as a result of a system build to our disadvantage. A system that extends beyond an economic or political ideology and extends into religious thought or spiritual oppression, a lack of access to education or mental oppression, and institutional racism that keeps us physically oppressed. As a result of this, I can understand a reluctance to want to understand capitalism because we as a people haven't ever really had a fair shot at it. Fair however, is for fables...I elaborate more on this here.
When I think about where I am I’m not just talking about what I physically possess as balances in my bank account or property I own. I’m talking about the knowledge I’ve acquired, the people I’ve met, the responsibility I hold to share what I’ve learned and accomplished with others who continue to be impacted by the different forms of oppression I’ve outlined above. I teeter on the line of being mindful of the obstacles and set backs Black people have and continue to face everyday, vs. taking personal responsibility to educate myself on methods to navigate around those obstacles so that I can become a private owner as described in the definition of capitalism above. That is to say very boldly that I acknowledge the obstacles and feel myself, empowered to do something about it.
Finally, when I think about where I want to be I can’t say it’s unlike a position similar to Jay Z’s. You see hurt feelings and emotional reactions aside, he’s in a position to make the most change by learning the rules of this game and using it to his (and his family’s) advantage. He’s in a position to earn, to learn, to grow, and to influence in a way that many of us cannot.
That’s not to say it won’t come without struggles or strife. That his character won’t be tested. That his dedication to social causes won’t be challenged. What it does say however is that he’s in a position to make decisions that the average Black American is not. He’s in a position of POWER, and having power does NOT make him a sell out. Refusing to learn how to acquire power makes you one though.
I know that is a bold statement and that it won't be popular with many. However what we need to all do, is follow his lead and become students of money. We need to understand how capitalism works not because we agree with it or because we want to be capitalist (and there is nothing wrong at all with wanting to become one), but because in order to play the game, and play the game right we need to understand the game.
The advantages it affords us.
The power it brings us.
Because until we build ourselves up to a position where we can make a difference in the way the system works, all we can do is kneel in protest or complain about how unfair things are.
…and well… we see how well that works.
I know that to many of the potential readers of this that there is no grey area. That social justice is social justice. However, I implore you to consider that there is more than 1 way to skin a cat and that Colin Kaepernick is doing things one way, and Jay is doing things another.
You certainly CAN bring a knife to a gun fight, however you’ll probably get shot before you can use said knife. I think it’s still very early to tell, but in my opinion Jay Z is getting his guns ready.